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Find Love and Keep Love

Spring is often a time for new beginnings and it seems only fitting therefore that time is spent in the spring finding new relationships and reinforcing those that already exist. Whether you are single or attached it is important to make time for both your partner and your friends. Here are some ideas to help you enjoy your friendships whilst finding love or keeping love this spring.

Find Love With A Wing Woman!

Find the Right Girl
My wing woman has been with me since college and our winging relationship is definitely a two way thing – if you are looking for your prefect wing women you must be aware that they have to meet two important criteria.

1. You need to know each other as well as you know yourself in order to read situations and understand how the other one is feeling. Often you will need to communicate without talking.
2. You should feel secure with your wing woman and have the ultimate faith in her that she won’t let you down when the going gets tough (ie, she won’t leave you when you chatting with a lovely guy because her feet hurt and she wants to go home!)

Eliminate Competition
Now this one might seem quite obvious but it is of course imperative that your wing woman has a different taste in men than you – if you like them tall and well dressed make sure she likes them blonde and unkempt! It’ll save squabbling late in the night if you know from the outset that you’ll be after different fish in the not so big blue sea. 

Talk in Code
Safety and comfort are paramount on a night out especially when you are looking for men as we all know that they are not always what they immediately seem. Try and work out 3 signals with your wing woman before you head so you can get yourself out of any sticky situations that may arise such as saying you need to powder your nose when its time to scarper or asking what time your friend is at work the next day as a signal that you’re fine being left alone.

Breaking the Ice
Wing women are a great option for girls that are shy – it’s easy to approach a guy that you don’t really fancy and once she’s in you could find it easier to enter the conversation. Make sure that you don’t spend too long talking to the guy if you are the wing woman though they are very simple creatures and might not know which lady there supposed to be paying attention too.

Keep Love by Taking a Fake Break

It’s sometimes hard being in a long term relationship and seeing all your single friends waltz around having fun in the spring. The grass is always greener however and taking a fake break could be all you need to feel sexier and gain a new lease of life.

Step 1 – Chill Out with the Girls
So imagine you broke up with your man – who would be over like a shot to offer shoulders to cry on and words of wisdom? You’re friends of course!  But, why should you wait until the relationship is over to get some invaluable advice from the people who know you best? Friends can often be the best relationship counsellors and even if they are single they won’t mind listening to your woes as they care about you. Have a night in with pizza and wine and talk your relationship through with those whose opinions really matter. Take a fresh look at your relationship through their eyes.

Step 2 – Get a New Look
As the Sugababes famously documented in their pop classic ‘Hole in the Head’ the first thing we do after getting dumped (once we’ve finished crying that is) is lose half of our body weight get a whole new wardrobe and get a brand spanking new hair cut. We never however bump into our ex as we would hope so what’s the point?!  A much better plan it seems to me is to book a day off and spend some time with your friends getting an image MOT whilst still in the relationship. Not only will your man love it, it will reinforce your passion make you look and feel great and you also get to spend a fun filled day with your girls.

Step 3 – Stop Saying No! 
Anyone that’s been in a relationship knows that it’s much easier to stay at home with a bottle of wine than say yes to invitations that would have once made your week. It’s important however to make sure you’re friends stay as important to you when your in a relationship as to when you are single. Ditch your no habit and start accepting more invitations whether it’s a drink after work, shopping on a Saturday or a night at the cinema. Balancing your time in this way will also enhance your relationship and make the time you spend with your partner more special. 

Step 4 – Be Adventurous!
After a break up its common to take up a new hobby or learn a new skill in order to keep our days filled but why should you have to break up with someone to enjoy new things. Whether you want to learn a language, learn how to ballroom dance or fancy an excuse for drinking lots of wine (It’s a tasting course honest!) why not sign up anyway! Drag a friend along to and it’ll be a great way of seeing them during the week too!

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